I have been sitting here thinking about what to write for the past half hour. I just couldn’t bring myself to focus on writing a financed related article. Instead I have been focused on some of the issues I have been having. Which is good I guess, because these thoughts will be the stem of this post. This is nothing finance related whatsoever. So if you were expecting something finance related you may want to skip this post.
I have never been ‘great’ at interacting with people. I am not a loner nor anti-social. But sometimes I find myself not caring about what is happening to other people. This not to say I am not a compassionate person, if anyone ever needed help I would be the first person there. I am talking about the small stuff here people. But I do feel that everything happens for a reason. If you were unable to pay your bill on time – you planned poorly. If you got a speeding ticket – you were going to fast. For every action there is a consequence; bad or good. Very simple concept.
Divorce is a pretty shitty ordeal. Especially for the man/woman who does not want it. If any. Either way it could still get messy. Well, I have someone on my team that is going through a rough time because he is going through a divorce and to put it frankly I do not care. Not one bit. I can understand where his problems are coming from and I help him out as much as I can. I have given him a place to stay for the night, I have been there when he needs to talk, and I have even acted as a middle man for him to grab some of his stuff (nasty divorce). But at the end of the day it is not something I go home and think about.
I understand this probably makes me seem like an extremely bad person. But why should I care about other peoples minor problems like divorce, their cough, their hurt ankle, their missed bill, or their car crash when we have people on this planet who if they were able to receive even just a handful of food they would be forever thankful to you? Should I really care about how your grandmother, after living a full life, died at the age of 82? Should I feel sympathy for you? Should I bend over backwards to apologize and try to make your life easier? No, I will not. I understand that this things affect the person involved, but I do not think that these problems should be pressed upon other people. It should not be the norm that people automatically apologize for things they could not help.
Sorry to come off as a harsh person, but I was talking about this issue with a co-worker and he feels the same way. Since we had a pretty long conversation about it I figured I would bring it to the blog! So…
What’s your issue?
I’m sure a lot of people (maybe even most people) actually feel this way. In our society we are under pressure to at least pretend we care about these kinds of things though. Sure it’s not your problem, but people generally just want others to at least fake some sympathy. There’s no need to dwell on people’s minor problems when you’re not around them though. You’ve got your own shit to deal with.
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